vincent van gogh
"I lost my husband on a Monday afternoon of April 1994, killed by a group of people that were our neighbors. I started running with my two children towards the West of the country. At each checkpoint, I was raped by soldiers. Now, I live with HIV and must raise my kids alone.” — Martha
Image by Tomaso Clavarino. Rwanda, 2014.
Forthcoming Pulitzer Center-sponsored project “We Are the Past.”
Just last week, a 7th grader with a curvy build came home upset about this. She had worn an outfit with a skirt and leggings, and in the morning, a teacher had said to her, “Cute outfit.” But then her homeroom teacher pulled her aside at the end of the day and said, “You know, another girl could get away with that outfit, but you should not be wearing that. I’m going to dress code you.” Juliet Bond and the child’s mom were discussing the incident, not certain if the message to the child was ‘you’re too sexy’ or ‘you’re too fat.’
The kids also report that the teachers have been discussing ‘appropriate body types for leggings and yoga pants and inappropriate body types for yoga pants and leggings.’
Bond says, “This is concerning because it is both slut shaming and fat shaming. If a girl is heavy or developed, the message is that she cannot wear certain clothes.” Neither is acceptable. We should not be sexualizing kids, nor should we be making them feel that they can wear leggings as long as they remain stick thin. Bond asks, “Why are the girls being pulled out of class to have assemblies on whether they are wearing the right clothes, while the boys remain in class, learning and studying?”
I don’t have a problem with a school having a dress code; in fact, I attended a school that didn’t allow jeans or shorts or shirts without collars, but I do have a problem when the dress code is discriminately based on gender and body type. There is a big difference between telling all students to dress respectfully and telling curvy girls to dress in a way that doesn’t distract boys.
|—||The Real Problem with Leggings Ban for Middle School Girls: Specific Targets | Alternet (via quentintortellini)|
The optical toy, phenakistoscope, was invented by Joseph Plateau in 1841.
Make ‘Em All Mexican-Linda Vallejo
Pushkin’s Farewell to the Black Sea - Ivan Aivazovsky (1877)
To every mother and father out there,
remember that when your child grows up
they will want to be just like you.
When a son sees his father
push his mother against the arch
of the dinning room table
because she over-cooked
the steak and he had a bad day,
he is going to tell his wife
when his hands are around her neck
that his father did the same
to his mother, and they are
Children act in the way
that their superhero acts,
so don’t be angry
when you find them
repeating your mistake.
When your daughter
is being pushed against the wall
by her husband and her daughter
asks her why did daddy do that,
she will tell her exactly what
you told her. That daddy was
stressed out and needed a way
to be happy again. When
your daughter shows her daughter
the map of her bruises on her body,
she will say to her daughter
what you said to her when she asked
why you were too sore to pick her up.
That bruises fade, and that daddy
didn’t mean to hurt mommy,
but to remind her of his hard work.
When a child finds their parents
being pushed to the ground,
or is the one doing the pushing,
they will think that’s the proper way
of loving someone.
So when you get a call
at 3 a.m. from a police officer
saying that your son has been
arrested for beating his wife
into a coma, or that your daughter
is the one who is in the hospital bed
hanging on to her life, don’t be
surprised. Because as their parent,
as their self-destructive superhero,
you should have seen this coming.
|—||"A villain in disguise," - Colleen Brown (via mostlyfiction)|
A strong independent dog who don’t need no man
Bouquet of Flowers, Paul Cézanne